Special Massages

This page is dedicated to the practice of Prostate Massage for men and G-Spot Massage for women. Due to a recent decision by the US Supreme Court( June 2003), The practice of prostate/G-Spot massage is now considered an action by 2 consenting adults in a private setting. Previous VA Code § 18.2-361 is no longer valid.

Much is written about the use of prostate massage in the medical field, as therapy or prevention for prostate problems. The medical community sees this service as part of wellness care, as well as stress management for men.
My research into the female counterpart, the Grafenberg Spot massage, indicates mostly references to Tantric massage, or Tantric Yoga, the use of this technique seems to be mostly for pleasure.
I will do my best to give information useful to everybody, without being graphic or offensive.
The following techniques may be integrated into the new Super Stress Buster Session! please click link below or on left.

Prostate Massage:

I found the following information on WebMD , click to read the whole article.
"Many men do get great pleasure from having this area stimulated -- often to the point of explosive orgasm.
On the other hand, some men find it very uncomfortable to be touched in this area. They may have had unpleasant experiences with prostate exams at a doctor's office. But for many men, in a romantic context with the right partner, the experience is great.
You can massage your partner's prostate directly or indirectly. The most effective method is to massage it directly, which means inserting your fingers into his body. Lubricate one or two fingers, and as your partner relaxes, insert them gently into his anus. Go very slowly, and let him decide how fast and how deep you go. Once your fingers are inside, curl them forward towards his penis, and make a "come hither" motion against an object that you will feel pressing against the rectum. Ask him how it feels. If it's not feeling good, stop and move on to something else.
A word of warning, though. If your fingernails are not closely trimmed, wear a latex glove and be doubly slow and careful as you enter. If you're careless, an unprotected fingernail might cause a small cut in the tissues inside the anus. While such cuts are rarely dangerous, they can sting for a day or two.
You can buy latex gloves -- the thin, transparent kind often used by health workers -- inexpensively at most drug stores.
With the indirect method, all touching takes place outside the body. This gives a less intense sensation, but some men prefer it. If you press up behind your partner's testicles (toward the anus) you'll notice that the penis actually extends a couple of inches inside the body. It's above this inner part of the penis that the prostate resides. During your next sexual encounter, press up here and move the penis around slightly to stimulate the prostate.
Or you can press up in the area between the genitals and the anus -- the perineum. Both methods lead to external stimulation of the prostate.
Whichever technique you use, keep communicating with your partner. Some men can have an orgasm from prostate massage alone, while others like additional direct genital stimulation. You may find that prostate massage is not all that you and he had hoped it would be. Luckily, there are about a hundred other places on a man's body for you to explore. "

Graphic One: Male Anatomy:

G-Spot Massage:
The Nepal Institute has information and a graphic display that I found suitable for use on this website. Click on the link to read their full report.
"The woman's G-spot can be accessed lying down, knees high, middle and ring fingers curled inside or more easily with a small, sanitary, phallic shaped object, or with your beloved's Lingam inside, pointing up behind the pubic bone. A sudden urge to urinate is a clear sign the G-spot has been accessed. It is, of course, best to urinate before this practice, so that you can relax into the feelings. Unlike the clitoris, very firm pressure is needed for stimulation. With a short but full deep outward stroke over the fleshy area in behind the pubic bone, the G-spot will begin to swell. Firm side to side and circular motions can also be applied. After the sensation to urinate passes, either pleasurable or possibly painful feelings will follow both emotionally and physically.
A woman's G-spot is a direct access to the second Chakra, and stimulation of this area can touch old emotional wounds that have not been completely processed through and released. This is why it is important to proceed slowly, being sensitive to subtle signals your body and emotions may be giving you.

Graphic Two: G-Spot Location:

During G-spot massage, place the other hand lightly on your heart Chakra, creating a polarity to channel the energy being aroused in the second Chakra up to your heart center for emotional release. Tears may overcome you from either pleasure or pain. If there is physical pain, back off. Be very light and gentle with yourself. If you feel like screaming to release old blocks, do so. Go with whatever is right for you in the moment.
As emotional cleansing takes place, be it in one session, or over a period of time, your pleasure will intensify to some of the sweetest pleasure known to women. As your energy rises to your heart center, and emotional release emerges, keep allowing the energy to flow up into your throat Chakra through breath and sound, and into your head up through your crown like a whale showering water over its self. Allow the Kundalini release to be complete, from root to crown and beyond. Your body may begin to vibrate and tingle, and joy and a feeling of effulgence may embrace your soul.

Rejoice in the pleasure of the new opening of energy flow bringing you more and more into harmony with who you were meant to be as a spiritual entity in a physical body."

"As you are ready, insert the middle or ring finger(s), reach deep and curl the fingers around behind the pubic bone, pressing and rubbing very firmly into the vaginal wall. It may feel like you are trying to touch the back of the clitoris. When you feel the urge to urinate, you know you have found the spot.
This feeling will pass. You may wish to use an object to stimulate the G-spot at this point as fingers grow tired, and it is difficult to reach with your own fingers.
Key things to remember are breath awareness, firm pressure and opposite hand on the heart center or other Chakras making a polarity channel up.

Do not rush; let it happen. Inhale deeply at the point of rapture, and stretch the exhale out to make the throbbing all consuming as though to swallow you whole. See if you can relax enough to let the Amrita flow. Do not push yourself; it will happen in time. Relax, let go of inhibitions, and enjoy your time spent in a self-loving G-spot massage.

Graphic Three: G-Spot Massage:

Closing Remarks:
As you can see, it takes time and practice to really enjoy these techniques. A loving relationship between partners, or a relationship of openness and trust between provider and recipient are the cornerstones that make these experienxces pleasureable.
If you are new to these concepts, be patient, communicate with your partner.
There are many great companies that provide instructional videos and aides like vibrators that make this a good learning experience.
Check with your local adult store, or visit the Sinclair Intimacy Institute online for great instructional videos that help make your massage a loving, caring, learning experience.
My favorite saying is "Perfect Practice makes Perfect!"--so, practice often, and have fun! Enjoy each other's company!