Sensual Massage

"Sensory stimulation will usually not be effective unless the appropriate emotional conditions are also present. Feelings of trust, of being wanted and cared for, and affection for one's partner often enhance our sexual response; in fact, they may be necessary ingredients.

In contrast, feelings of being used, lack of emotional rapport, or negative emotions like guilt and anxiety often eliminate or restrain our capacity for erotic arousal."... more

Preparation:

Let's prepare the room for a stimulating experience:
The temperature in the room needs to be comfortable for being naked. It is better to have the room too warm than too cool.

The Massage Surface, mostly massage table, should be covered with a nice warm flannel sheet for warmth, or a satin sheet for the slick sensation.
Many people choose a bear rug in front of a roaring fireplace as selected location.

Vision:

Let's start with the lighting in the room: Turn down bright lights, use small table lamps, or better yet, several candles throughout the room.
The candles have a calming effect, while maintaining visibility of the things around you.
Lingerie has always been considered as an eye-pleaser.

Hearing:

Gentle, relaxing, romantic Music creates a feeling of well-being and relaxation. The voice of a trusted provider, affirmation that you are being cared for, is important for the recipient to hear. The provider likes to hear the soft sighs or moans of approval.

Smell:

Our sense of Smell is enticed by scented candles, scented massage oils, or incense sticks and cones.
Floral Fragrances like Jasmine, Vanilla, Sandalwood, as well as fragrances of strawberry, raspberry, champagne are considered aphrodisiacs.
Even wearing your favorite cologne or perfume can trigger a sensation of familiarity.

Taste:

Our sense of Taste may be enhanced with edible lotions or flavored lubricants. The Sinclair Institute has wonderful solutions for edible oils and lotions to increase pleasure.
Following the contours of your partner's mouth with an ice cube can create a great sensation.

Touch:

Our Skin is the largest area, and the largest organ in our body. Millions of nerve endings act as sensors to take messages to the brain, and from the brain to the rest of the body for response.
"Since some areas of the body surface contain many more of these nerve endings than others, they are also more sensitive to the touch and, as a result, they may be especially receptive to sexual stimulation.
These particular regions have, therefore, also often been called erogenous zones (literally, loveproducing zones, from the Greek eros: love and genesthai: to produce). The best known erogenous zones are the glans of the penis in men and the clitoris and the minor lips in women, the area between the sex organs and the anus, the anus itself, the buttocks, the inner surfaces of the thighs, the breasts (especially the nipples), the neck, the mouth, and the ears.
Touching, stroking, tickling, rubbing, slapping, kissing, or licking these areas can often create or increase sexual excitement. " ...more

Sexual Touch
" There are many different forms of sexual touch. One is not better than another, it depends upon the person who is experiencing the touch and upon the time and place and so on. For one person, being kissed on the neck might be the most important and meaningful part of their sexual experience. For another person, hugging their partner maybe so meaningful to them. One must keep in mind that people will find different experiences important to them. Each individual will experience different sensations and emotions.
Partners can touch each other in different ways and experience the sensations that accompany this touching. Even something as simple as one partner gently moving their finger on the other partner's palm can be sexually arousing and a positive experience. For individuals that have lost sensation in their genitals, or certain other parts of their the touching of other parts can be very fulfilling." ...more
Information and instructions for Prostate massage and G-Spot massage are located on the page "SPECIAL MASSAGES", click on the left, or at the bottom of this page.

Goosebumps:

One wonderful fact is that our body tells us what feels good and what does not. If you experience goosebumps during the massage, that means that your body enjoys the stroke/technique. To intensify the response, the provider may repeat the previous technique several minutes.